The Dreaded F

How can I support my child through a failed test?

MichaelBy Michael Greschler, M.Ed.,

Educational Therapist, ILD and Director of SMARTS, ResearchILD 

While there is no way to take away the sting of watching your child suffer from poor grades and dashed hopes, there are ways you can help you child cope with failure in a constructive and resilient way. This list provides tips on how to respond that will be productive and help your children develop resilience, rather than fear.

“I can see you’re feeling frustrated about your report card this term”

  1. Acknowledge negative emotions–It does not feel good to fail at something. Acknowledge that negative emotion in whatever form it takes (sorrow, anger, hopelessness). Maybe relate a time when you failed at something and how that made you feel.

“What can we learn from this?”

  1. Turn failure into an opportunity to learn life lessons— Failure is important. When we fail, we have the opportunity to learn what we can do differently to be more successful. This is key tenet of Carol Dweck’s Mindsets, and this philosophy has been reiterated by countless famous scientists, celebrities, politicians etc. While step one is acknowledging the hurt that was caused by the failure, step two is encouraging your child to see their poor grade as a learning opportunity. A poor grade is not a ‘good’ thing, but it is an ‘interesting’ thing. You can relate this to the story you told your child about failures you have faced, or you can think of an example pertinent to your child’s interests (sports, music, etc.)

“Let’s look at the items you got right and those you got wrong.”

  1. Try to understand what went wrong— Do a simple analysis. What did the student do well? Where did the student miss points? You can create a checklist and tally up repeated errors. This is much easier if your child has to do test corrections, hopefully for credit, but it is worthwhile regardless. FullSizeRenderAt ILD we call this strategy the Top-3-Hits. We make a list of the 3 most common errors a student makes. We then ask students to memorize this list using an acronym or a crazy phrase (e.g. if a student makes errors on fractions, absolute values and negative numbers, they could use the acronym F.A.N. or a crazy phrase like Fabulous, Awesome Neptune. (For more on the Top-3-Hits, check out Chapter 11 of Executive Function in Education or check out SMARTS Online, an Executive Function curriculum developed by ResearchILD).

“How would you change your approach next time?”

  1. Help your child understand how to use that knowledge to make changes for the future— Now that you’ve had a chance to look for common errors, it’s time to come up with a plan for how to address them proactively. What can your child do differently on the next test? On a math test, they might need to spend an extra minute double checking to ensure that when they multiplied two negatives they ended with a positive. On a science test, they might need to be extra careful when they see a problem with a diagram. If they can identify the challenging areas beforehand, they have a much better chance of succeeding next time. At ILD, we encourage them to take the mnemonic they created to help them remember their Top-3-Hits and to write it on the top of every test before they begin. This will help them stay aware of their common errors throughout the course of the test.

No one enjoys failing, and we need to acknowledge that, but failure is not fatal. It is a call to be courageous and to learn more about ourselves. Help your child face this challenge, and they will learn a lesson that will not only assist them on their next test, but in all the tests that life sends their way.

Podcasts in the Classroom

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By Elizabeth Ross

(The following blog post is a re-post from an April 14th post on the SMARTS Online Blog and our dear friend Elizabeth Ross. Check it out for more great articles!)

For years, we’ve known that listening to audiobooks can be a great alternate learning method for students who struggle with reading, whether they have been diagnosed with dyslexia or not. Recently, The Atlantic posted an article by writer and English teacher Michael Godsey on The Value of Using Podcasts in Class that explores this topic more fully. Godsey looks at how using audiobooks or podcasts in the classroom can help inspire a love of literature in students who, because of their reading level, often find reading to be an arduous and stressful task.

Research has shown that many students actually learn most effectively when listening to an audiobook or podcast while reading along with a transcript. Furthermore, Godsey noted that his students found podcasts more engaging than books because podcasts usually have a variety of speakers who speak directly to the listener, making the material seem more immediate.

I asked each of my own students to write down what they’d honestly like to do for the rest of the semester: read a good book together, listen to another podcast, or listen to a podcast with the words on the screen. Sixty-two voted for the latter, while just two voted for podcasts alone, and one for reading alone.

The reasons were as varied as they were compelling. Many of them said that reading along with the audio helped with their focus and kept them from “spacing out” while listening. Others, paradoxically, wrote that they were able to multi-task—they could take notes or write on their worksheets and could keep up with the story even with their eyes off the screen. Some explicitly recognized that they could look back and re-read something they didn’t understand when they first heard it; others said they read slightly ahead and then could write down a quote while they listened to it. A student with eyesight problems said he appreciates the ability to take reading breaks without stopping his enjoyment of the story. A few students learning English as a second language wrote that they like how they can read the words and—as one student put it—promptly “hear how they’re supposed to sound.”

Godsey points out that the benefits of listening and reading at the same time are not confined to audiobooks and podcasts:

A similar situation in India was observed on a much larger scale when—starting in 1999—certain networks started supplementing some of their television shows with “Same Language Subtitling” (SLS), and the country’s literacy rates soared. The Boston Globe reported on the phenomenon in 2010, claiming that “in the last nine years, functional literacy in areas with SLS access has more than doubled. And the subtitles have acted as a catalyst to quadruple the rate at which completely illiterate adults become proficient readers.”

Drawing conclusions that sounded very similar to my own students’ reflections, the SLS study found that “one’s ability to anticipate the lyrics,” combined with immediate validation through the audio, cultivated “a steady stream of successful reading events”—presumably scenarios in which students read with accuracy and enjoyment. In this way, the SLS contributed to “a nonthreatening reading environment in which to embark upon, confirm, practice, and enjoy one’s developing reading skills.”

Listening while reading helps students experience several successful and engaging reading events in a row, which increases confidence and makes reading a positive experience that students want to repeat.
Have any of you had experience using podcasts or audiobooks in your classrooms or at home? What works and what doesn’t? Let us know in the comments!

The Lifecycle of a Test

Using EF Strategies to Beat the Odds

ElanaThe following blog post was written by Elana Snow Ed.M. for the SMARTS Online blog and posted (in a slightly varied form) on March 1, 2016.

Mark, a student facing a very common problem, comes home to his parents brandishing a red “C” on the top of his test, feeling devastated, frustrated, and hopeless. He tells his parents that he always studies really hard. Yet, again and again, he has little to show for it. Each time he thinks he’ll do well, but when he struggles to get the A or the B, he is shocked.

Mark is like many of the students we see at ILD and ResearchILD. When asking these students what ‘studying hard’ means to them, they may answer: “Well, I went through the review packet my teacher gave me. It took me a really long time.” But what these students do not understand, because it is rarely taught in school,  is that simply filling out a packet or reviewing class notes is just the first step. By itself, a review of the material on the test is not an explicit study strategy.

Luckily, we have developed some concrete strategies that can truly help students move past the passive “study strategies” with which they have become comfortable. Since test preparation and test-taking have become such challenges for so many students, we have made them the topic of our presentation at this year’s 31st annual Learning Differences Conference. On Friday, March, 11, Michael Greschler, Ed.M, Wendy Stacey, M.S. and I will be reviewing the life-cycle of a test and addressing some explicit strategies students can use to help them maximize their studying efficiency and recall throughout the process. Specifically, we will help attendees learn to teach their students to:

  • Plan: If it’s a big test, waiting until the night before is not a good strategy. How can teachers/parents help their students to look ahead and create a reasonable study plan that breaks up the studying across multiple days?
  • Prioritize: Students waste a lot of time studying the information they
    Tool: Students can create a tool with various images or memory strategies, like the Triple-Note-Tote, to help them with information recall.
    Create a Study Tool: Students can create a tool with various images or memory strategies, like the Triple-Note-Tote, to help them with information recall.

    already know. How can teachers/parents help their students determine which information is the most important to focus on?

  • Create a study tool: Creating their OWN study guide with priority information and remembering strategies will enable students to truly recall the information they study. What are some proven study tools that can aid in this step of the process?
  • Quiz themselves: This is a tried and true part of the process. What are some ways students can effectively quiz themselves?
  • Analyze previous errors in order to prevent similar mistakes in the future: Looking for patterns of errors in previous tests can help students avoid those same errors again. What are some strategies for analyzing and recording errors so that students can effectively remember and avoid them?

Looking to find answers to these questions? Join us for the presentation! ResearchILD’s Learning Differences Conference is held yearly at the Harvard Graduate School of Education and it is a fantastic way for teachers, administrators and parents to learn both about the science behind and concrete approaches to helping children with learning differences. If you’re interested in attending or learning more, check out our conference website *Mark’s name has been changed. But if you have a child or a student, like Mark, who feels endlessly frustrated with fruitless studying strategies, consider coming to our session!

Behavioral Challenges Causing Conflict and Frustration at Home?

Think:Kids, says Dr. Elizabeth Pierce, Ph.D.

Photo of Dr. Elizabeth Pierce by John Kramer

ILD’s status in the Learning Differences community means many opportunities for partnership and collaboration. Connecting with other passionate practitioners and educators who are trying unique, innovative approaches to help students who are struggling to find success makes us better at what we do. While the kids we usually work with have difficulty succeeding in school because of executive function, attention and learning difficulties, many kids struggle because of emotional or behavioral challenges. In collaborating with practitioners who specialize in these arenas we are often heartened and humbled by the overlap in approach. Unsurprisingly, the most successful approaches put the child at the center, a notion which has been our goal for over 30 years.

One such practitioner is Elizabeth Pierce, Ph.D.  Dr. Pierce has had over 25 years of experience practicing the Collaborative Problem Solving approach, and is certified as a practitioner and trainer in CPS by the Think:Kids program at Massachusetts General Hospital. According to the MGH website, Think:Kids “ teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach called Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) for helping children with behavioral challenges. Through training, support and clinical services, [it] promote[s] the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well …Unlike traditional models of discipline, the CPS approach avoids the use of power, control and motivational procedures and instead focuses on building helping relationships and teaching at-risk kids the skills they need to succeed.”

Since becoming a Certified Trainer, Dr. Pierce has organized groups for parents hoping to learn this method. She utilizes the Think:Kids 8-session curriculum. This curriculum is unique in helping parents to understand the lagging cognitive skills behind their children’s challenging behavior, and in giving parents a practical, structured, 3-step approach to solve very specific problems in the home.  It is also distinctive in its respect for both child and parent concerns, allowing parents to effectively communicate their values and point of view to their children.  It avoids the pitfalls and negative side effects that can sometimes occur with standard behavior modification approaches (behavior charts, time out etc.) The group is rich with information, including a slide presentation each week, videos demonstrating the approach, and handouts.   There are opportunities for role-plays, review of homework assignments to facilitate learning, and discussion amongst group members.

According to Dr. Pierce, parents who have gone through the group report that they felt accepted and comfortable, free to raise their struggles with parenting without feeling judged.  They also expressed that their learning of CPS challenged, in a positive way, their usual ways of thinking about discipline and about how to help their kids.  They experienced improved interactions with their kids, and saw positive changes in their children over time.  They unanimously appreciated the exchange with other parents, including hearing the ups and downs of trying the steps of CPS.

Dr. Pierce will be running a CPS/Think:Kids Parent Group at our ILD offices for 8 Thursdays in a row starting April 28th, 2016 at 7 pm. If your family is struggling because of your child’s behavioral challenges and you are looking for a child-centered solution, we believe you really cannot do better than this. For more information or to register, click here.


Feeling those College Blues?

Get back on track with Semester Off!

Dr. Ilan Goldberg of Semester Off

Last year, ILD began a partnership with Dr. Ilan Goldberg of Semester Off, a comprehensive program designed specifically for struggling college students.  Semester Off aims to empower students to return to college, if they so choose, or to define another, alternative path that is more in line with their talents, future goals, and objectives.

Given the vast overlap between the goals of Semester Off and ILD, a number of our staff members have begun teaching a weekly course, How to Succeed in College, at Semester Off.

Sitting down with Dr. Goldberg, we learned a bit more about why he started this innovative program and the void in post-secondary education which this organization fills.

What inspired you to start Semester Off?

IG: The idea for Semester Off emerged organically from sessions with struggling college-aged students in my private practice. It became clear that these students lacked the resources to navigate through this challenging time and that time away from school was filled with loneliness and stagnation. I believed that the creation of an academically rigorous and comprehensive group experience would teach the skills needed to succeed, while reducing the feelings of shame and isolation many of these students experience. I also wanted to destigmatize the experience of taking time away from college and bring fun and joy into these students’ lives during an otherwise dark period. Our goal at Semester Off became to help students taking a break from college to get back on track and regain self-confidence. 

What distinguishes Semester Off from a “semester on?”

IG: Semester Off students are taking a critical look at why college didn’t work out and learning the skills they need for the next phase of their lives. While we do have lectures, they are interactive ones. But Semester Off offers incredible depth beyond the classroom experience. Students integrate wisdom from Eastern philosophies by participating in meditation and yoga sessions in addition to cardiovascular exercise. They take part in group team-building, group study sessions, and trust-building exercises in order to understand themselves more deeply and bond with their fellow students. They receive individualized career counseling and perform community service. It is our alternative approach to education that makes room for a partnership with ILD as well! Your talented and experienced educators who teach How to Succeed in College present critical executive functioning skills that are reinforced and practiced in countless ways throughout the rest of the Semester Off curriculum. 

What are students saying about Semester Off?

IG: Our students and their parents have been our most vociferous supporters since we began. A former student recently shared what his Semester Off experience meant to him, simply and elegantly:

“Semester Off resembles the training ground for life, and by the end of the program, students should feel capable of making their own decisions and acting upon them.”

Stay tuned for Part II of this blog post, written by an ILD teacher of the How to Succeed in College course!

Ed Therapy at ILD

Why it’s worth it…

Every once in a while we receive a reminder about why we do what we do. Recently we received one such reminder in the form of an email from a thankful parent. What a nice way to celebrate the new year! It seemed an important one to share with our readership, especially that’s partially to whom it is addressed:

To the Staff at ILD – and all potential parent clients:

I am a parent who used the services at ILD in Lexington. 

We have seen more tutors, therapists, educational consultants and neuropsychologists than a family should have in a lifetime – and it was when and ONLY when we went to ILD in Lexington that my son began to make some progress. Not only did he make progress at a very difficult time for anyone (college application pressures, essays, nightmares and college deadlines) – he enjoyed going there and felt totally supported by his tutor, Donna Kincaid.

Never have I seen someone as effective, as patient, as professional, AND as warm and intuitive as she.  The entire organization is run so professionally – yet has the delicacy and warmth of walking into someone’s home. 

ALL the staff were engaged in my son’s progress – and it was obvious that a lot of communication and collaboration occurs behind the scenes between staff to find ways to support your child.  When I came in, it seemed that the entire staff I engaged with were aware and supportive of my son’s progress AND strengths. 

It’s pretty hard when a student is very resistant to help, to find the place of engagement and recognition of that student’s strengths. Staff are only human after all.  I always left feeling so hopeful and so supported. I was incredibly thankful every single time we left – AND even the few times my son just couldn’t make it in.  They were hopeful and had the kind of optimism we all need as parents.

I recommend this organization stronger than I have ever recommended anyone who has helped my son; when a parent finds this treasure, you can’t help but want to spread the word.   Your kids, not even knowing who they are, I’m convinced, would be met with an engaging, professional staff – and most importantly the warm support they thrive on.

Robin, Parent in Lexington MA.

To all of our parents (and potential parents): emails such as this remind us that our work is so critical, not only for the students who benefit from increased self-confidence and strategy use, but also for the families who have suffered alongside them. We are happy to have the opportunity to  make an impact on your lives. You and your children have certainly made a difference in ours!

ILD Student’s Film Brings Hope to LD Community

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Joshua Berman, Former ILD Student (click photo to view Josh’s film)

Joshua Berman, a former ILD student, recently began studying film at Santa Fe University School of Art and Design. This past year, Josh won the prestigious “Emerging Artist” College Scholarship, funded by Robert Redford. Because of his connection with ILD and his inspiring message, we sat down with Josh both to examine his thoughts on school for students with learning differences and to see if he could pass on any words of wisdom.

Q: Tell me a little bit about your journey. When did you discover you learned differently? What components make up your learning difference? How did you view them as a child/young adult? How do you view them now?

JB: I first realized that I learned in a different way when I was in middle school. I started inventing all of these incredible things; I designed and built things out of my basement, started my own successful computer business, and also published my first book, all when I was in middle school. Yet I would go to school every day and the teachers would make me feel like I was broken. The other students would make me feel as though I was worthless, as though there was something wrong with me. There was this sharp contrast in my life between all these successes I had outside of school and this constant feeling of worthlessness I had inside of school. So as a young kid it was very confusing for me because I didn’t know what to believe: am I incredibly successful, or am I a total failure?

 As I grew up, I started to turn these interests into possible career opportunities and build off of these successes.  At that point, I was able to reflect upon what I had gone through. I realized it wasn’t me that was broken, but rather the system. After years of questioning, “Does this really matter?” I recognized that yes, it really does matter. It was off of those ideas that I began to build my life. Now, as I grow older, I feel confident and proud of the way I think. ADD and any of the learning differences I possess are not disabilities but rather the elements of what made me who I am today.  It’s really less about what specific label and more about being proud of yourself, no matter what your diagnosis. If I didn’t think the way I did, I wouldn’t have been able to create this film. I wouldn’t be talking to you now. I wouldn’t be 2,000 miles away from home, studying film.

Q: When did you start working with ILD and what did that help you to discover?

JB: I started working with ILD at a very unique turning point in my life. All throughout my time in school I knew I struggled, and I always questioned: “How can we fix this? How can I make school work for me?” Year after year I would try to fix school for myself. But I’d fall flat and hear “oh. Well we can’t change the system.”

It was during my time at ILD, towards the end of my time in high school, when I started to realize that everything I was going through wasn’t just about me. It was about a broader issue. I stopped thinking about how I could make the system work for me and started thinking, “now that I’m pretty much done with the system, how can I use my experiences to help other people who are currently going through what I went through for years?” That was with the help of ILD.

Q: How did your interest in film begin and do you think it has anything to do with your own knowledge about the way you learn?

JB: That’s a very good question. I think it’s important to note that when you’re younger, you don’t consciously know “oh! I think in these ways, so I’m going to pursue these certain interests.” But I was drawn to film because I knew on some gut level that it was the way I learned. It clicked. It felt right. I succeeded at it.  I see a lot of young kids having things click for them. That’s a beautiful thing. With education, the best thing we can do is explore those areas where it just “clicks.”

Q: Can you tell us about the video? What inspired it? Why did you go this route? How did it feel to win the scholarship to film school?

JB: The video was a real transition for me. For years and years, every time I was struggling, every time I was bullied, I felt like I was alone. The video was a real turning point because I had a chance to start interviewing other people in my life: my friends, my teachers, my co-workers, even some famous people like Temple Grandin and Dr. Ned Hallowell. I realized that there were countless other people who went through the same thing that I did.

That became my hope with the video. For other kids who are now where I was years ago and who are sitting and feeling that “I’m alone. I’m worthless, there is no one else,” to be able to see this video and realize that there are other people like them. They are not alone.

As for the scholarship? It’s amazing to receive this award, but really what it comes down to is being able to spread the word; being able to come here to college where I’ll be able to make more films that can actually influence people’s lives. At the end of the day, that’s really what it’s all about. 

To view Josh’s film, click here!

College: Ready, or Really Ready?

What your students need to know before they go…

ntrautmannBy Nancy Trautman, M.A.T., Reading and Educational Specialist

Almost launched.  For students with reading disorders and attention challenges, the whole long process of school is one enormous struggle, often supported by a succession of tutors, special educators, and parents.  These students might feel as though they are in the back seat, but college presents them with the challenge of being in the front seat and in charge for what might be the first time.   While this challenge isn’t unique to students who have received support at school or at home, students with learning differences are more likely to be at-risk when they arrive on their college campus.

Here’s some advice we’ve heard from students who have been there:

  1. 15450498811_a4034af487_kUse a planner. It can be a little black book, a Google calendar, a smartphone, or a spiral notebook, but whatever you adopt, use it for anything that you need to keep track of.  It will give you more control over your time, free your mind from worry, and in general improve your quality of life.
  1. Find out where the resources are. Know where the writing center is, and when they are open.  Get to know someone there who seems like a good fit for you so that when it’s time to write that long term paper, you are ready.
  1. Triage your assignments. This is also called prioritizing!  Look over your syllabus carefully, and identify the most important readings or assignments.  Do these first.
  1. Stay healthy! Don’t become a freshman lump or gain that dreaded freshman 15. Staying active is a critical part of your mental health and it will help you keep all the other stuff (organization, motivation, interest level) on track.
  1. Reach out for assistance. Most of all, don’t hesitate to reach out to your network of support people who helped you get there. Just because they (and we!) aren’t there with you, doesn’t mean they’ve fallen away entirely. It is good to push yourself to be independent and take on challenges by yourself. But keep in mind that you are not alone.



BethanyPicBy Bethany Roditi, Ph.D.

Co-Founder and Director of Education, ILD

Thank you for visiting our blog!  As professional psychologists and educational specialists, we are dedicated to improving the lives of students with learning differences (LD). We are excited to offer a forum where we can share our knowledge, our reflections, and provide information about our students’ challenges and achievements. While many of our examples emanate from the Institute for Learning and Development (ILD), we will also incorporate information from our sister not-for-profit educational research organization, ResearchILD. Our two organizations provide an environment for a dynamic interchange of theory and research that interlinks with evidence-based best practices.

As Director of Education at ILD, and Co-Founder of both ILD and ResearchILD, I welcome you to our blog space, and hope you will join us in fulfilling ILD and ResearchILD’s common mission – to transform the lives of children with learning and attention differences and assist them in finding their unique pathways to success.  We will discuss ways in which “learning differences can become learning opportunities” by creating optimal learning environments that enhance self-confidence and self-esteem.

We hope you will regularly check out our blog to stay updated on the latest trends in the LD community!